If He Had Been with Me by Laura Nowlin

Originally published in 2013 and reissued by Sourcebooks Fire in 2019, Laura Nowlin's If He Had Been with Me is a #1 New York Times bestselling YA contemporary romance that has now surpassed one million copies sold, driven in large part by a passionate BookTok audience. The novel follows Autumn and her childhood neighbor Phineas — known as Finny — from their inseparable early years through the emotional turbulence of high school, tracing how a single awkward moment in eighth grade quietly reshapes a lifelong bond. It is a coming-of-age story that takes on depression, identity, friendship, loss, and the paralyzing weight of unexpressed feeling, and it has clearly struck a nerve with teen and young adult readers. Common Sense Media flags significant mature content — including sexual scenes, teen pregnancy, and discussions of suicide — making it best suited to readers 15 and up. The book's greatest strength is its emotional authenticity; its most consistent criticism is that its prose is simple and some of its plotting stretches credibility.

Reviewed Apr 23, 2026